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saaaj
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Posted on 08-21-10 11:10
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मेरो एक मित्रको परीवार बिग्रने क्रममा छ भन्ने मलाइ एकदमै लागेको छ । उनको परीवारमा श्रीमति, हाइस्कुल सिनियर छोरी र युनिभर्सिटि (अन्डरग्राड) पढ्दै गरेका छोरा छन । फेसबुकको माध्यमबाट मलाइ यो थाहा लाग्यो कि उनका छोरा र छोरी दुवै खराव संगत र गलत क्रियाकलापमा चुर्लुम्म डुबेका छन । अमेरिकी समाजले कसरी पचाउला थाहा छैन, तर मेरो नेपाली मानसिकताले ती फेसबुकमा आदानप्रदान गरिएका वाक्यपिच्छे "फक" शब्दहरु तथा यौन उत्तेजक फोटोहरुलाइ असामान्य बदचलन मानेको छ । कतिपय फोटोहरुमा असामान्य यौन भङ्गीमा प्रदर्शन समेत गरेको छ । ती फोटाहरु यति डरलाग्दा छन कि, परिवार, र अझ खासगरी आमावुवाले आफ्ना सन्तान र तिनका साथिहरुको त्यस्ता फोटोहरुलाइ सहज लिन सक्दै सक्दैन । अब म असाध्यै दुविधामा परेको छु, मैले यसबारे साथिलाइ जानकारी गराउँदा उचित होला या नहोला? कि यो अमेरीका हो ठिकै छ, तिनीहरु वयस्क भैसके, जे सुकै गरोस भनेर आँखा चिम्लिदिने पो हो कि? मेरो साथी आफ्ना सन्तानका यी हरकतहरुसित परिचीत भए जस्तो लाग्दैन । म आफैले साथीका छोराछोरीलाइ सम्झाउने वा प्रत्यक्ष कुराकानी गर्ने अवस्था पनि छैन । साथीलाइ थाहा दिँदा के भन्ने हो खोइ? तर अर्को मनले भन्छ, न साथी आफै नै छोराछोरीहरु अमेरीकि सन्तान जस्तै फर्वार्ड भएमा खुशी मान्ने खालका पो छन कि? त्यसो हो भने, मैले केहि भन्नु आफ्नै लागि घातक हुनेछ । साथीकि श्रीमति (भाउजु) धार्मिक स्वभावको भएको हुँदा उनी सन्तानको यस्तो हर्कत देखेर नराम्ररी विचलीत हुने डर पनि छ, लाग्छ भाउजुले मानसिक सन्तुलन गुमाउने डर छ । यस्तो अवस्थामा के गर्दा उचीत होला, कृपया कामलाग्ने सुझावहरु दिनु होला ।
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boulevard dreams
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Posted on 08-23-10 7:51
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Dear saaj,
You seems like a descent matured man who've seen the life in U.S. very well. It's so kind of you that though being here for more than a decade you still follow the Nepali tradition, culture, values in your life. Seems like you're an educated person too because if it was some uneducated person they would have directly gone and tell their friends about their kids.
Saaj, this is a very difficult situation. As you've stated the example of one of your friend's son in Nepal and how you changed his life. That's nice of you but do you think if you applied the same thing here with those kids, will they listen to you?? I doubted brother?? Because immigrant kids who are born and raised up here think this is their country and they want to live the same life as Americans unless their parents doesn't control them. So in this case i don't think those kids will listen to you.
I would say why don't you just talk to your friend nicely. Don't ask anything about their negative habits or something like that but ask your friend what his kids are doing and how is their study. Like you've said may be you never know, your friend might have left them free and he wants them to be as Americans. So just ask him how is he taking care of his kids and if he is not aware of any of those things than just tell him indirectly about his kids. Don't pour everything at the very first talk but just slowly tell him about their stuffs. Because here's what i think?? No matter how you live in the U.S. you're mentality will still be like immigrant and you don't want your or your friend's kids to live like American youngsters.
Few notes for Lahure Kancha, bro try to think positive sometimes. If you look at something from good perspective than you'll find it good but if you look from negative perspective than you know the result. I am sure you've heard the famous song from Ani Choying Dolma, "Fulko aakhama fulai sansar kada ko aakha ma kadai sansaar bhanne." No offense Lahure kancha but plz don't start the fighting with me again like the way you did with saaj. Thanks.
Good Luck saaj
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Posted on 08-23-10 8:03
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If your friend is still nepali by heart, then he will appreciate ur help , may be u can get more close to him and his wife, and will always gets decent favour in ur difficult times. Most People generally think wht they will get in return by helping others. But u hv to help everyone with ur good intention. And I agree with boulevard dreams "Fulko aakhama fulai sansar kada ko aakha ma kadai sansaar bhanne." A gun manufacturer says a gun is there to protect not to kill, but it stills kill someone to protect. itz just a argument.
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Lahure Kancha
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Posted on 08-23-10 9:23
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Look dude Pedophile (>16) (She might be 17/18 but She is your Friend's Daughter, and it's SHAME you are STALKING HER IN FACEBOOK(and Him for Son)!!!! Read your Sentence Again ( जो कसैलाइ पनि यौनोत्तेजना जगाउने अवस्था छ= What does this means?)......you have mention ALL THE PEOPLE WILL GET SEXUALLY AROUSED (ALL=YOU TOO)!! Who is STALKING FRIEND's DAUGHTER!! [You had motivation to go into their PROFILE and LOOK for PICTURES]
My/Sunsweesh Suggestion for you was, MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!!
Ms Dream decipher his original text then you'll understand " जो कसैलाइ पनि यौनोत्तेजना जगाउने अवस्था छ" [think whats in his mind, stalking his friend's daughter]
Nepali Maryland Community कतिनै ठुलो छ र? (Atleast १० वर्ष भन्दा अगाडिकाहरु)
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saaaj
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Posted on 08-23-10 10:36
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ramprasadneupane, हा हा , त्यो चैने गुड आइडिया हो है । माने ल । boulevard dreams, I appreciate your suggestions. Thank you. I liked " Don't ask anything about their negative habits or
something like that but ask your friend what his kids are doing and how
is their study... just
ask him how is he taking care of his kids " Perhaps that would be best way to begin with. 8847, Thank you for your tips. So far, I have heard my friend talking like a Nepali than an American, however, talking about kids bad friends is not as easy as talking about general stuffs that we Nepalese commonly do at gatherings. Boulevard dreams strategy sounds good to me so far. Laure, You are sick. The suggestion MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS was my first option among many, yet, I was trying to find out if there was any opinion that I could try for something good. See, others, how they have genuinely attempted sharing their opinion and easing the situation for me, unlike you, who is irritating me with baseless allegation and proving yourself stupid in each of your posting. FYI, I know almost everyone in DMV region who are here for 10+ years.
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Posted on 08-24-10 12:22
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Saaj ji By your post it seems you are already friend with them in facebook. Now Tell your friend to open fb account. if he already have one then add him in your account. When your friend saw fb suggestion to add his son and daughter, it's up to him what to do.
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