It was a challenging decision after spending about 15 years in this country. But we finally made a decision, if we want to return to Nepal, the time is now as the kids are young so it'll be easier for them to adjust in Nepal.
It made so much sense for us to move back to Nepal because of family and many other things. After all, it's your country !
Bye USA.

Dear Racheeta Ji,

Good and bad things in life depends on situations and how you want to live.. There are ppl who are here for good, and are happy the way things are, while there are ppl who doesnt see any hope and complains all the time....Bachha ko future ko le hos ya, personal choice le, the the choice was always yours, the decision would always be yours. Besides the future is full of uncertainties that it can either be better or worse,be it there or here..

So all I wanted to say was, good luck! hope everything goes well at your end...

I've been back for a few months and I thought I'd share my thoughts on this.

I've long-established that unless you've got ties/connections and strong roots, there's absolutely no point of returning back; Well, unless you're soul searching or something of that sort.

It's worse for women; Kathmandu/Nepal is a shithole for average women, especially those 'accustomed' to liberty, freedom, expression et al. Forget 'rural areas'. Kathmandu itself is a shit hole for women. That added to the fact that there's shit splattered all over - be it in the form of sewer or uncivilized bums taking a dump all over sidewalks, that makes it even shittier.

Apparently, microbuses have 3-4 designated seats for women these days. But considering the fact that women are more reliant on public transportations, can you imagine the nightmarish situation they go through while trying to get home at 5:30 in the evening? How many people can afford cabs/private vehicles? Try hollering for a cab at 9:30, semi-drunk after meeting up with a few friends for drinks.

Say you're financially better off and can afford a scooter or hell, really well off and can afford your own car. The shit that you get through to get your car serviced and in worst cases, pertaining to accidents, the scenario is both cringeworthy and scary.

Lets get into juicier topics now - Politics. Corruption. Bureaucracy.

I went to pay "tiro" for my ghar (that's been rented out) last month. Since there was a miscommunication on my part with current lessees, I ended up (re)paying the taxes that'd already been paid! This happened in Lalitpur that's been digitalized and is equipped with computers now. How infuriating is that?

Outraged, I stormed inside the office the next day, demanding refund. The clerk was paying solitaire on his computer while there was a line outside.

If that's the sort of shit one has to go through in the valley, what's one supposed to do if he's from some rural area?

I could go on about the way people talk, the way people behave. The way people drive is absolutely insane. Roadrage that one experiences in the US is totally different than what s/he experiences here. Ignorance is everywhere. People don't seem to know simple rules of driving. There's no system of "yielding" or "merging". There's no sense of "right-of-way". I was told that regardless of a bike rider's recklessness, you'd still be held liable if you got involved in an accident. That certainly makes you wonder if a go-pro or some dashcam fitted on your windshield might help your cases at all.

Speaking of bike riders, they're the biggest tools you'd come across. Everybody's in a rush when s/he is on a bike/scooter. Literally. Every fkn person. The only exceptions are the ones carrying infants and kids.  Bike riders are biggest idiots except for people that seemingly give little/no personal space when lining up at a counter/window/door.

Traffic 'officials' are the only ones that seem to do their job. Big ups to every one of them. I'd read about some trafficwoman being diagnosed with TB after serving 18 yrs in the valley and the state of pollution gives you an idea about what must've caused it.

All the rant/jibberish talk aside, home is where the heart is. If you're willing to accept the country for what it is, I'm sure you'll like it.

I hated almost about everything at the beginning but I'm not going to pretend like this is something I didn't expect. I don't love filthy air and atmosphere. I despise the way people shamelessly piss and spit all over. I cringe at the way people don't value personal space. But slowly but surely, I'm getting 'used to it' but I'm not sure if this is what I really seek and aspire.

That said, I'd be shocked if Racheeta didn't have means and resources to lead a good life in Nepal. 

Best wishes and power to you!

Why do some people think they need to tell everyone that they are going back to Nepal for good. May be it is somewhat like people posting pics and declraing that they are going to the gym on facebook.
What if i told you that you can go to Nepal without posting here on Sajha.com

There are a lot of people who has returned fro usa aus in Nepal forever. You are not the only one or the few ones. If you go to Nepal with the mentality you have rite now, You will be regretting it. eradicate the feeling of telling and letting people know of how aspiring thought you have going to Nepal. You will feel like you are just a fish in the ocean when you are in Nepal if you go with this thought.

Tensed,
If you do not like this thread, please ignore it and move on.

Actually, I like this thread and so do a lot of other readers and posters.

Thanks for understanding.

I am not here to comment who is right and who is wrong. By nature we are different and we think differently. The only thing I would like to share is, I lived in US for almost 11 years and returned back to Nepal 11 months ago for good. There are couple personal reasons why I came back leaving back my decent job and life in the US. Trust me when I left US, I was not happy with my decision myself.

Now looking back 11 months, I don't regret returning back to Nepal for good. We cannot expect or compare Nepal with US, because we are top from bottom and US is top from top. Life is not that bad in Nepal (my personal opinion). I agree nothing is systematic, everything seems slow and unorganized, that is why this is Nepal.

Who ever wants to come to Nepal for good, only one suggestion I would like to give is, he/she should have patience (lots of patience). Other things gets adjusted slowly. Most of us spent 17-18 years here (assuming you left Nepal when you were at that age) so we know what to expect.

Ktmlaure, do you happen to know of forums/organizations etc where returnees get to hangout and share ideas and so on?

One thing I really miss is hanging out with friends. Once people get married in Nepal, they seem to change way more drastically that one would imagine. I get to hang out with my friends on weekends. Most married homes are normally rushing to get home after office hours.

I agree on your post about patience. You can't expect things to go as planned and expected. Life is way slow paced and that probably explains why life isn't really that stressful.

Try this group
https://www.facebook.com/#!/groups/farkekanepali/

You decided 15 years ago to go to USA where you had never been before. Was that a challenging decision? and now you decided 15 years after to go to Nepal where you lived for 16+ years. Is that a challenging decision?

@ Racheeta, updates? regrets? experiences?

MNO: Very goog question.
देश फर्कनलाई चिन्ता हैन देश जुन दिशामा बहेको छ , हाम्रा दाजु भाइको मानसिकता १५ बर्स अघि छोडेको जस्तो छैन अनि त्यो १५ बर्स भित्रको परिवर्तन सगं हामीले दोहा , आबिदाबु बात प्लेन भित्र छिर्न सुरु गरे देखि सुरु हुन्छ अनि त्यो १५ बर्सको ग्याप लाइ पुर्न लाग्ने समयको , पछि आउने भोगाइ का सोधाई मात्र हुन् जस्तो लाग्छ है मलाइ त ? 

ya any updates?

Everybody wants to come to sajha and tell what they are going to do with their life next. It is like Lesbian and Gay, that they have to tell everybody what they do and what their sexuality is. Sing, sing, and sing to get the attention.

Everybody wants to come to sajha and tell what they are going to do with their life next. It is like Lesbian and Gay, that they have to tell everybody what they do and what their sexuality is. Sing, sing, and sing to get the attention.

Does anyone know some forums for connecting and hanging out with folks who have returned to Nepal from US?

I tried checking out the below fb group as suggested above but it looks like it is not being updated regularly.
https://www.facebook.com/#!/groups/farkekanepali/